Shang Zhisheng Introduction: quality of life, engineering, founder of the world, the only access to Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) founding ancestor of Dr. Richard Bandler personally granted permits senior international NLP Practitioner and DHE (design human engineering), PE (persuade Engineering) certified instructor. Repeatedly to the United States to accept and encourage the world’s top five marketing master Brian Tracy, Tom Hopkins, Quinquela professional training, was awarded “China Top Ten Outstanding Trainer” and “the most influential 20 Strong Trainer “award. Main selling works include: “Life pyramid”, “Super influence?? Winning Marketing” and so on. Any one person in her life, the desire to achieve the process, it will inevitably encounter opportunities for collaboration with others, needs, and others you will and with the level of assistance often determines whether you can accelerate smoothly and achieve their objectives. You are facing in life to communicate with others. Communication quality is the quality of life Good communication skills and persuasive, can enable you to meet the honored everywhere, always have the resources, people can not do, you can do it, most people take five years to reach the goal, you may only need 2 years. Because the ability to communicate and convince, allows you to build good relationships, get more chances and resources, reduce opportunities for mistakes and find out the time to help get more support and recognition. So we say: the quality of life is the quality of communication. Good communication and interpersonal relationships, not to let you go to curry favor with sycophancy, thus, be a no principles. In fact, both the communication, negotiation or persuasion, you only have to achieve, that is both “consistency.” The so-called “consistency” refers to both the physical and psychological state, whether on, can access a common channel or frequency, to reach agreement both parties point of view, thinking the same, the same behavior, while the two sides can meet the desire to achieve target. Efficient communication the Heart: The reflection mirror “Like attracts like” is heaven, when the similarities between people, the more the more able to accept and appreciate each other. You do not like is everywhere and you sing a different tune, ” ” people. You should like and your personal ideas or the like-minded people, you have a common topic of things have the same views or ideas, or similar environment and background. Communication is so common among the more easy to communicate more. You have had this experience, have come across a person contacts you and he did not take long conversation, there is no need for warming, Brief Encounter feeling, inexplicable to him you have a sense of trust and goodwill? Whether you have this experience, my question is, do you want that wherever he is loved by the people? To this end, the most effective and fastest way is through the “mirror reflects the current.” Communication between people, is through the three channels, one that you use language and text, and second, your tone of voice or tone, third, you are using body language, such as your facial expressions, gestures, posture, breathing, etc., but you know, based on an analysis survey, interpersonal communication, only 7% of the text influence 38% of the impact is by your tone or tone from . For example, say “I love you” three words, when someone said to you when these three words, with a roar of angry tone and the tone to say, you will feel? You may feel is ” I hate you. ” But the same, if a person with a soft sentimental or childish way of saying “I hate you”, you may feel a teaser or love of. The influence accounted for 55% of the most important part, is your body language. Action of a person’s behavior, respiratory and facial expressions in communicating the message conveyed by the representatives and often beyond the words of mouth. But most people in the communication process, but often overlooked this accounts for 55% of the common ground of communication. The reflection of the so-called mirror, but through a mapping or copying the other way to make a person, whether in text, voice, body language and the other three can be a common mode of communication, in other words, when the two the language used, tone of voice, tone, attitude talk, breathing pattern and frequency, facial expressions, gestures, behavior actions are in a common state, it will surely produce a resonance, would intuitively think that the other party and have similar personality and creates a sense of warmth and trust, because this feeling is generated unconscious, so we are also known as a subconscious mirror reflects the mode of communication. Hypnotist Airuikesen (MiltonErickson) Dr. is through this way, by imitating other people’s mood and tone, breathing pattern and frequency, facial expressions, gestures, etc., can in just a few minutes, let the other party unconditionally trust or accept him. Imitation of others, some may consider this speech, tone and posture a bit silly the way facial expressions, and seems very artificial and not sincere, not a natural performance. But you know what? Communication the biggest obstacle is that you do not understand each other’s thoughts and feelings, and when you and a person has the same thoughts and feelings will naturally be able to communicate without. We have done an experiment, when a person imitating another person’s physiological state, they have the same feelings, and even a similar idea, but the same thoughts and feelings, not what we wants and hopes in the communication to achieve it? In fact, this process of imitation in fact everyone has done, but they did not realize it, you can find two very good relationship, friends or couples, observed their expression in speech , posture, body movement or choice of words, certainly there are many common or similar. Communicate the Heart 1: imitate each other pitch speed Brain processing visual information and those who think the way but through the images of the conversion, because the mind the image of the conversion rate soon, and he expressed in words, in order to keep up with changes in the minds of the image, so visual type of people to speak faster, and higher pitch, and their relatively short breath, so vision-based chest rise and fall in breathing, obvious, and often spoke shrug Shen Jing. Auditory people talk unhurried, calm tone, breathing symmetry, usually a larger fluctuation in the stomach, speak like ear Chuijian. Feeling type of people talk slow, and low voice, when speaking pause
